Emotionally Focused Therapy

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) seeks to create a feeling of safety between relationship partners. When trust has been built, couples work together to uncover emotions that have been left unexpressed, oftentimes inducing negative patterns and promoting conflict between partners and stress in other facets of life. When those emotions are acknowledged and expressed, couples can work together to meet each other’s affective desires and effectively communicate feelings.

What is EFT?

The goal of Emotionally Focused Therapy is to create feelings of safety, lasting connection and trust between partners. Couples who attend therapy together learn the skills necessary to form a secure attachment base in their relationship. Oftentimes couples seeking therapy are suffering from deep wounds and negative patterns in their marriage; one or both partners frequently feel unable to open up to their companion, or believe that their partner is unwilling to listen or simply doesn’t care. When feelings of loneliness and insecurity are present in a relationship, the critical need of safety and trust necessary to human well-being is lost.

Emotionally Focused Therapists create an environment of safety and attention where each partner can be heard, understood, and validated. As individual concerns are brought up the therapist suggests methods that will allow couples to better understand each other and recognize the underlying emotions that feed negative patterns. Over time couples learn to communicate more openly and ask for their needs to be met in a healthy way.

As couples progress through Emotionally Focused Therapy, communication will continue to improve and healthy interactions between the partners will become routine. These positive interactions create a stronger, more secure and satisfying bond between the couple and the deep wounds that have been festering in the relationship can finally begin to heal. The therapist will continue to assist the couple in being open and honest about their emotions and their needs until together the couple determines that they are comfortable and confident with their new skills and decide to discontinue sessions with their therapist.

Why
Choose EFT?

Are you having a hard time communicating effectively with your partner? Does your spouse seem closed off and withdrawn from your relationship? Do you feel like your partner doesn’t appreciate you, or does but struggles to vocalize it? Is your relationship solid but your communication skills could use a tune-up? Whether these questions describe your current situation or you are simply looking for a way to create a deeper and more fulfilling connection, I am here to help you reach your relationship goals. Schedule an appointment and get your relationship on track today.